I was talking to a friend a few days ago and a subject came up.... "searching for a partner". This made me remember other conversations I've had with other people.
For many years, I 've had friends and acquaintances (African men living in the UK and USA) constantly telling me they want to go home and find a wife...the perfect African woman to marry.
Very few have been lucky to marry someone very good but a huge amount have ended up divorcing because according to them "the women come into the country, learn European ways and decide they can do better than their husband".
At the same time, I've spoken to a few Nigerian men living in Nigeria who want a wife outside Nigeria. The story is that "Nigerian women were too greedy and out for what they can get, so they don't feel the women were marrying them for love; others say that African women now date more than two three men at a time - and insist one was to take care of their expenses - another was for how good the man was in bed and a third is a woman they could call their girlfriend"
I guess...the grass is not always greener on the other side as you can get there and find it was full of dog pup!
My question which I will be posting on Facebook to African men is
"why do African men living outside Africa want to marry an African woman who lives in Africa and why do African men living in Africa want to marry African women who live outside Africa"
I 'll be posting the responses I get below so please stay tuned!!!
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Oby Grace Nneka Okafor 5 December at 15:08
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